In recent days we conducted a survey through social networks that was intended to measure the fear that people experience most frequently, assuming that those who experience the fear of death, loneliness or losing a loved one would be the ones who score the highest - but to my surprise, the biggest fear is the same that recently also held that position in a survey we conducted to students and teachers of eight private and public schools in Colombia: the fear of failure.
When I noticed that this was the outcome once again, I stopped for a while to think how a fear that is practically fictitious, since it is invented by society, could be marking so strongly the minds of so many people. Just as this fear is created by our minds, the meaning of failure or success is also created by it. Failure is a belief imposed by a consumer society and is determined according to the social circle in which we operate. In other words, what for some is failure it can be seen as a triumph, while it can cause frustration, stress, depression or lead to suicide for others. The concepts of success and failure have evolved over time, and have been adjusting and adapting to what capitalist society is showing us and what it is spreading throughout the world as the great truth.
What we see today in a very strongly way in our society is that success and failure are practically defined by the amount of money we have, and that defines to which "level" of society we belong. So, it is this exclusion what gives us so much fear? Can we not really be happy if we do not have what society tells us constantly that we must have in order to be happy? Is it that not to feel approved and recognized by others makes us feel inferior to them and that marked us so much that destroys our calmness and causes us great stress?
This programming that we are subjected to since childhood often cuts our wings to do what we really want, leaving us an indelible mark for life and making us deviate from the path and from our true mission of life, which is to be happy.
In order to put aside the fear of failure, you must thoroughly review the concepts that manage your life and so, create new ones that adapt to reality and give you peace and calmness:
All in all, success and failure are the same energy; one is the shadow of the other. This means that when you think you are successful, the fear of failure appears, and when you fail, the fear of not succeeding appears. Therefore, enjoy intensely every step you take, finding love in every simple thing you do, thanking and appreciating what comes into your life, letting go and flowing freely, without attaching yourself to the past or to the future. In this way, every step you take will be a magnificent experience that will make you grow and give the best of you to others.
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